Getting Started

“I keep six honest serving-men
(They taught me all I knew);
Their names are What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who”

Rudyard Kipling

1- WHERE am I?

I don’t know how you got here, but you’re on a personal development site that offers advice on what personal development is in the first place, and how to make the most use of the resources you own and are available to you.

2- WHY am I here?

Because you care about your success and your personal growth.

3- WHAT do I want?

To make the most use of this site, you need to decide what you’re looking for. Are you looking for advice on achieve life balance? On making sense of personal development? On controlling your emotions? On developing your analytical skills? On goal setting? On dealing with others? …?

If you know what it is you’re looking for, you can use the search box to find what you need, or the categories list to find the posts that match your interest.

4- HOW will I use what I get?

The information we come across usually passes us by without us making a lot of use of it because we haven’t decided how we will make use of it. The most important tip I can give in this respect is not to depend on the resources you have for your personal development. You need to EXTRACT from them the information you decide you will use, and RECORD the information in a place you can refer to.

Before going through this site, grab a notepad that you know you will refer to again (you can use a computer file, but you have to make sure that it won’t get lost amongst all your other computer files), and note down the information you want to use, and how you will apply it to your life.

5- WHEN will I use it?

There are some pieces of advice that might be beneficial to you at some point in your life, but they are either irrelevant to you now, or you cannot commit to them immediately. Record these as well, but associate with them a starting date for when you will put them to use. For example, you might not be able to keep a journal in the upcoming week, but you might want to give it a go the next week. Set a date for that, so you know when you will be going through the exercise you want.

6- WHO will I share it with?

You might want to share the information you find on this site with others, be they friends, family, neighbours, co-workers, associates, your blog visitors, etc.

This is especially important for the exercises that you might want others to support you with or for them to share their own experiences with you. In many cases, sharing information with others can help your own personal growth, so it’s an opportunity not to be missed.

I hope you get to enjoy an enriching experience on this site that will carry over to all aspects of your life 🙂

13 replies on “Getting Started”

Hi Haider,

I need to correct you. Please don’t say “revert back.” A lot of people here in the USA say it also, but it is redundant. Thanks!


I’m not sure how to get your ideas you just e-mail them to me? sounds interesting. hope to hear from you.our web pg. is still in the making. any ideas for us are welcome Big thanks!

@Charlie: Thank you very much for pointing that out. I usually try to be as precise as possible in my writing, but I guess I wasn’t aware of the redundancy! 🙂

@Jeanne: If you would like to stay up-to-date with the posts on this blog, you can subscribe by email using the link at the top of the sidebar (under the orange box). I checked out your site. The Buddha logo is very nice. But I would recommend you incorporate online payment to the site, as well as include a blog where you can share some words of wisdom in line with the sort of lifestyle/outlook you’re promoting. All the best with the site 😀

thanks a lots Haider about your response on post. do you have an email address that i can email some specific questions?

Calm man,

I emailed you my email address (since it’s not too healthy to disclose it here :D)…

Hope to hear from you soon…

Dear Haider,

I just read your post on Zen Habits, and I just wanted to thank you for your incredible post. Over the past few months, I feel like I’ve been suffering from a life out of balance, but I never quite knew that was what was wrong with me until now. You, Dr. Haider, have just fully diagnosed my problem and given me the prescription I need to finally feel better! And on top of it, you’ve given me a great excuse to play with the Smart Art feature in Word 07 to make my pretty personal growth map. 🙂 Thanks again!

Dear Sara,

That could very well be the best compliment I’ve gotten on this blog! Thanks 😀

I haven’t written a lot on the Personal Growth Map, but I hope to do so in the coming weeks. This will hopefully make the experience of keeping a PGM more rewarding.

I hope you get to enjoy working with Word 07, but a word of caution: you might find it easier to work with lists using a pen and paper before translating the final map to an actual drawing. It’s important to jot your thoughts down in the most comfortable way rather than having to search for the right program feature at the same time.

Also, please make a distinction between all the options open to you and the options you have chosen to apply into your life right now. You want to focus on the latter. Otherwise, it can get slightly overwhelming.

Wish you all the best!

Dear Haider,

I came across your website on another blog and followed the link here. I must say you have done a great job with the website. I like the simple and practical site design and your straightforward writing style. Looking forward to reading more posts from you!

Keep up the good work,
Gayathri Moosad.

Dear Gayathri,

Thank you for your feedback.

I was getting worried my site wasn’t flashy enough, but now you dispelled my worries. Thanks 😉

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