You may assume that people have a choice to make in their lives: to either follow an organized religion, or carve out their own personal religion (collection of beliefs, rituals and moral code) to live by.
But that would be a wrong assumption to make.
It’s not a question of either/or. You always adhere to a personal religion, whether you wish to acknowledge this fact or not.
No matter how hard you try to adhere to the teachings of an organized religion (should you choose to do so), you will always be living by your own personal religion.
Your personal religion can be strongly shaped by the organized religion you adhere to. But it always exists separately to organized religion.
While organized religion may offer you a set of beliefs, you are always the one who makes the connections between those beliefs. You’re always the one who relates those beliefs to your personal life experiences. In matters of life and religion, the spokesmen and women of organized religion can’t speak on your behalf (i.e. on behalf of your personal religion). You are the only spokesman or woman of your personal religion.
Your personal religion expresses what you truly believe in, how you truly feel and how you will conduct yourself in life. It defines what your true priorities are. If you want to know what you believe in, you can’t ask anyone else for answers. You must look to your own personal religion.
Of course, you can always ask others questions. About what an organized religion teaches or what other people believe in. But religious beliefs aren’t transferred automagically as soon as you claim membership to an organized religion. Your consciousness must become aware of a belief and then become convinced of its truthfulness. Just because you are told that your organized religion teaches X, Y and Z, that’s not a guarantee that you – as an individual – will embrace these teachings wholeheartedly.
Every religion I’m aware of has been shattered into separate sects, each with its own set of beliefs and practices. Divisions usually arise when an adherent of a religion senses a strong divide between his personal religion and the teachings of his organized religion. To eliminate the contradiction, he establishes an organized religion based on his personal religion. This happens to individuals and groups. Its origin is almost always the need to fully express one’s personal religion.
So why is it so important to draw a distinction between organized religion and personal religion?
You cannot experience personal growth by being oblivious to your own person and all the factors that influence your life. You need to know who you are as a person. What you think, how you think, what you feel, why you feel it, what experiences shaped your life, what motivates you, what annoys you, what principles you uphold, who you admire, why you admire them, what you enjoy, what bores you and a string of other questions that are personal to you.
No other person can answer these questions on your behalf. The Pope himself can’t answer these questions on behalf of a single Roman Catholic (apart from himself, of course).
You should be comfortable with the fact that you have your personal religion, without feeling guilty that it doesn’t fully match your organized religion. What you need to work on is your personal religion. That’s the key to success and well-being.
Whenever you think about the teachings of your organized religion, dig deeper to find the true teachings you are living by:
What do I think? How do I feel? What will I do?
Ultimately, these are the three questions that will shape your life.
@haideralmosawi
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I really like those three questions!
They kind of say it all…
Greetings,
Claus D Jensen
Thanks for passing by, Claus.
The questions are so simple, but, strangely, easy to forget!
This is really great and timely advice. No lie- just today I was thinking, “If I decided to create my own personal religion, what would it entail?” Then I found your post in my inbox! I guess I already have one, even if I had never formally acknowledged it before. Some similar advice:
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.” -Buddha
Hi Sara!
Nice to know the post was timely for you!
I love that Buddha quote. To me it sums up my own outlook on how I choose my beliefs and outlook on life.
Although we each have our own personal religion we are currently living by, it’s important to be consciously aware of it, and to make adjustments to it when our personal edicts aren’t serving us in life. If we talk negatively to ourselves, it’s part of our personal religion. Our personal religion is telling us to judge ourselves harshly. Is that a good thing? No it isn’t. So how can we change our personal religion so that it’s better suited for our needs and well-being?
I’d like to write more on that. But for now, I just wanted to introduce the idea of personal religion to my readers.
I like the term Personal Religion.
I always refer to it as a belief system. Even atheists have their own beliefs. I don’t think any human can be free of beliefs. The non believer believes in non believing.
Answering the three questions your proposed at the end are a good way to explore one’s own beliefs, values and preferences in life. This was a good introduction to personal religion.
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Hi Manal,
Belief system is a more accurate term.
I used “Personal Religion” to include rituals people may do to express their values. And, of course, not everyone has explicitly defined their belief system, so I don’t think it qualifies as a “system.” More like a haphazard bucket of beliefs.
If you believe in truth, and believe that truth can be confirmed by the fact that millions of others have also confirmed it is truth, then your personal religion should line up with an organized religion. How you actually apply the personal religion to your life is another matter. We all have shortcomings but we just need to keep plugging away and sticking to our beliefs.
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Hi Jade,
Thank you very much for your comments.
Your personal religion doesn’t have to conflict with your organized religion, but there will always be a difference. What you follow is your personal religion. What you would like to follow could be an organized religion. Being aware of your personal religion and explicitly defining what it is will help you identify the root causes of the struggles you experience trying to follow your organized religion.
This is an introductory post to explain what I mean by personal religion, and I’ll be writing a lot more on this subject in the future.
As to how the truth can be confirmed, the number of people who hold a belief isn’t a reflection of how true it is. But this I will leave for another post!
Your way of reflecting the thoughts makes your article to burst the ground and open endless number of paths for new ideas. For intelligent people like you that provides more benefits to exercise valuable thinking, feeling and doing. However it is not straightforward for people less educated as they can be confused with multiple options available for feeling and doing and get lost with the right way for personal religion. There are a lot of examples to underpin above stated and one of them can be considered confused thinking about multiple God’s faces.
Anyway I like you way of thinking and looking forward to your further posts….!!!
Dear Akif,
Thank you for your input.
I’m not advocating that people follow a personal religion. I’m saying that based on people’s thoughts and feelings, they already are following a personal religion. There’s no way of escaping this, since we are human beings and we relate to beliefs differently.
I definitely agree with you about the confusion that can arise from considering all the possibilities available to us, which is why it’s essential that we are aware of our approach to thinking, and seek to increase our knowledge and ability to reason, so that we can arrive at accurate beliefs that support us in life.
Looking forward to further feedback from you.